Ever felt like you are the only person feeling the way you do? Ever had that alone feeling that almost feels claustrophobic, suffocating, or paralyzing? We all have them. Well I guess by that statement “we all have” consider yourself not “alone”. Yes, it is very true every one of us regardless of our outside display of how we want people to perceive us has and continues to experience these feelings periodically.
Ok, great, now that we know we are all in the same boat, how does that help? The key message is “get past it”. Recognize this feeling for what it is. Generally it is a reaction, and it is unhealthy. It is probably a fear, a past disappointment, or an anxiety about something that hasn’t even happened- clearly the odds point to the fact it will never happen!
Your problems are as important as everyone. I’m not trying to minimize or discount “feelings”. However, I am here to say you are not alone and allowing this feeling to creep in and out although natural is not the place to be.
So how do I deal with it?
Start with RECOGNIZING it for what it is. If it is a past issue, what can you do about it? Answer? Nothing. No time machines here on earth.
Is it a future anxiety? Mathematically it will never happen. Vegas would be broke if they counted on the future odds of “anxiety” to occur. Just doesn’t happen. And more importantly, you can change anything that is yet to happen by the choices you make it.
Now that we have recognized what it is and that it either can’t be changed or likely will never happen, and if we really believe it might happen we have the ability to change it. It shouldn’t be an issue.
Still not satisfied? Connect with others, your trusted and protected network. Don’t have one? Get one. Connect with those who you can share anything with. We all need a SAFE ZONE. When you are feeling alone connect with others…. You will find the “alone feeling” subside.
Distance yourself from lonely MAGNET attractors. You know who they are. Those people in your life who say “can’t, won’t, and don’t”… They question everything you do and bring you down to the world of impossibility. That is a lonely world. Live in the world of possibility through belief in yourself.
Have a little FAITH. Yes there is something bigger going on then you and I. This world is massive, and the universe beyond even bigger. 7 billion plus in population, hard to believe any of us could possibly be alone. There is a purpose for each and every one of us; it just involves a little thing called discovery.
I have heard the way to reflect on “desires” and “why specific asks” go unanswered is through the understanding of a simple response given to the person in prayer and wondering about the lack of response. The response is always “yes, not now, I have something better in mind”.
You can overcome the feeling of “alone”. Begin by recognizing it for what it is. Get into your safe zone. Remember to stay away from lonely magnet attractors and most importantly, have a little faith.
Cool thing, it is all about choice. And we all have the ability to choose!
“Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.” — Douglas Coupland, Shampoo Planet