There are 12 different personality styles. And we all have one. We are stuck with the one we possess. Researchers suggest that the personality traits are fully entrenched by as early as nine years old. Sounds like it sucks. I don't think so! As a matter a fact your style is your gift, the secret is to understand your gift.
The first step to understanding is to do a deep dive on which personality style you are. There are many profiling examinations available to you and they all have pluses and minuses. I am partial to DiSC. Regardless of the process the first step is to complete the self-examination. Learn everything you can about your particular style and all of the strengths and potential pitfalls of your style. Continue to remember it is a gift. However the gift can only be unlocked when you truly know who you are. Seems obvious, although most of us exhaust ourselves exploring others when the real effort should be first placed in knowing who we are as an individual.
Every one of us is unique. We have been given special qualities and gifts to perform our purpose. Ok getting too deep? Then think of it as your gifts and talents to get your job done. No matter what that job is, it begins with understanding yourself. We spend all this time blaming others, making up excuses as to why something isn't working out our way……… it usually involves what someone else has done or not done. You know what I'm talking about; the person who is late, the individual who said they would do something then doesn't, the broken promises and of course the anger of someone towards you.
Once we realize the secret comes from understanding our self, clarity starts to set in. We now can focus on how we react to others and all the triggers that come our way from others. One of the simplest starting points; understand how our personality style interacts with one of the other 12 personality styles.
I recently conducted a workshop whereby a group of 14 people were struggling with why their environment was broken. The culture seemed disruptive. Everyone seemed to be focused on his or her own agendas and each person felt the problem was with someone else. Once we completed the profiling exercise and shared the information of each person, the lights started to come on. There was no good or bad, right or wrong position. There was however the clear realization that each person was coming at each topic from a very different perspective. Some were DRIVING for results. Others were desperately trying to INFLUENCE everything. Others were so attentive to being SUPPORTIVE and then there were the individuals who were so CONSCIENTIOUS about every outcome. Not one of these four of the twelve personality variations was offside. What was the problem, the lack of appreciation of where each person was coming from! Once each individual started to understand that they themselves held the key to the beginning place for all solutions the miraculous change of a great organization started to materialize.
Learn your own style and then work to understand others and how your style can work with others with the most impact. It is not the other person’s responsibility to change. It is your ownership to learn how to adapt to the environment through focusing on yourself. After all you are only in charge of how you react. That is all you can control and you have the ability to choose that path. The real power is in choice!
“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”. - Bruce Lee