Success is how you define it

And the dictionary defines it as:

“The achievement of something desired, planned, or attempted”

I struggle with the word success; its modified interpretation which people have placed on it and the close association between it and EGO. [Remember EGO: the ugly feelings inside you when you hear of someone else’s success: “Why them?”, “Why not me?”, How come I can’t accomplish that?”, “They’re lucky.”, “They always win.”] These statements and feelings come from your own EGO and none are helpful when trying to accomplish your own success.

Here are some steps to get you on the right track:

  • Start by clearly establishing your goal(s). Write them down. Doesn’t matter how big or small it is.
  • Write down what the end result looks like.
  • Write down the steps you will take or the actions that take you towards the end state.
  • Establish the timeline it will take to achieve the success.
  • Monitor daily and applaud yourself for every action or step you successfully take towards your goal.

Here are some key items to remember in your own unique pursuit of success:

(1) Start by understanding that success does not come from watching others and comparing. It comes from achieving what you define as your success. Begin by stopping the look at the neighbors and comparing your life to theirs. Your success is as important and achievable! It is right in front of you.

(2) Genuinely appreciate others. Celebrate their successes and achievements. Offer sincere applause to those who achieve what they set out to achieve. Eliminate envy and those destructive, “why not me” statements from your life. And start appreciating yourself and your own success.

(3) Success is not defined by your wallet or how much you possess; your appearance, athletic capability or smarts. The problem is that society has told us that success is based on these things; but it’s not. But any one of these items may be what success is to you, if that’s how you define your individual success.

(4) List what you want in life. What are your dreams, desires, goals and areas you want to achieve in? For example, if your child’s goal is to learn how to skate, you cannot compare another child’s goal of making the AAA midget hockey team. They are individual goals desired by two unique individuals and therefore success must be appreciated and recognized for each achievement independently.

If your goal is to pay off your mortgage but your brothers’ goal is to become the CEO of a major corporation and have millions of dollars in stock options, and both are realized, it’s considered a success by both individuals. Right?

The major point is that you define “success”. Don’t lose sight of that. Your achievements are as significant as anyone else’s. And remember that success is how you define it; through your choices. And we all have the ability to chose!

"Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements."

Napoleon Hill

© 2013-2014 R. Todd Millar. All rights reserved.

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