The secret of life... Want to know what it is?

Jack Palance in the 1991 movie City Slickers coined the phrase “just one thing”. In the scene where this comment is shared Billy Crystal and Jack head off to find a stray cow separated from the herd. Billy who was a little intimated by Jack and feared the big cowboy is captivated by Palance’s perspective on life. He shares with Jack that you city slickers work all year long only to come here and expect a two week vacation to solve your problems. “All that don’t mean shit….” Jack explains. You want to know the secret of life, Jack shares. “Just one thing” he states holding his index finger in the air. Crystal says what is that, Jack says “it is for you to figure out”. Jack elaborates by sharing that it is really for each of us to figure out and then live our life with that discipline in mind. (By the way if you haven’t seen this flick I would encourage a Saturday evening viewing with your favourite treat and good friends. Even a repeat viewing is a great reminder of what’s important in life. There are plenty of hidden gems in this one).

I figured it out. For me it is “Positive Confidence”. It is clear that when we approach every day with “positive confidence” everything in life is way better. It is not just a saying. It is an approach and attitude to life. The two words “positive” and “confidence” are not nice things to post on a wall. They represent a behaviour, mental state of mind, and ultimately all the choices that we make day in and day out. ”Positive confidence” is how we should live! And that leads us to happiness and fulfillment regardless of where you are at in life.

Positivity comes from:

  1. Being around the right influencers. You know who I’m talking about, that group of positive trusted advisors, your safe zone, and ultimately those who look at the world as half full.
  2. Mental state of mind and controlling our thoughts. Directing them to positive perspectives only.
  3. Acting with positivity. We all need to act exactly how we speak. Our actions and behaviours become our state of mind.
  4. Self-discipline. It is hard. Like anything that you want to change or apply in life such as dieting, physical fitness, quitting a bad habit, it all take self-discipline. And the one thing I know is we all have the ability to do it!

Confidence comes from faith. First of all for the non-spiritual readers, I share two definitions below. I certainly don’t want anyone to stop reading because of a preconceived determination that faith is tied to religion. Well it is and it isn’t.

Faith definition:

  1. Complete trust or confidence in someone or something
  2. Strong BELIEF in the doctrines of religion, based on spiritual conviction rather than proof.

You can apply whichever definition fits for you. I chose to believe that they are actually the same. There is clearly something bigger going on in this universe than you and I. I’m pretty sure we all agree we as individuals are not bigger than life. I don’t pretend to have all the answers but I clearly have faith that so much is happening around us that’s connected to a much bigger outcome. That faith provides so much confidence that the outcomes when approached with positivity are going to work out just the way they are supposed.

Again, the secret to life is “positive confidence”. Luck is not an ingredient of positive confidence. No such thing as luck. Things begin to happen in our lives with tremendous positive outcomes when we approach everything with “positive confidence”. It does take discipline and no, it is not easy. It is however the secret to life.

We spend too much time living in fear, anxiety and various degrees of depression. Take charge and begin to move towards complete fulfillment in your life. “Just one thing” required. What is it, “positive confidence” and it will change your life. And the cool thing is, it is all in the choices which you have the power to make. Never underestimate the power of everyday choices!

“It is easy to sit up and take notice – what is difficult is getting up and taking action." — Honore de Balzac

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